Alison Bulman, LCSW
"Enlightening, cathartic, inspiring, magical."
"This was a game-changing, mind-blowing experience for me and my husband."
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Welcome! We are a husband and wife team - Vincenzo Minino and Alison Bulman, LCSW - offering a unique private, online, couple-to-couple coaching experience. We specialize in working with couples where one or both partners are therapists.
We love working with other clinicians and understand that sometimes, caring for so many others, your own relationships can need some attention. We know how critical it is that our primary relationship feel healthy, safe, and connected in order for us to connect to clients in the ways we need to.
So working on your relationship actually makes you a better therapist! Also because our approach shows you how to bring more of yourself into a session so clients feel more connected to you. And this practice is one you can use with your couples clients as well.
We've also discovered that therapists tend to be naturals at our method - already being versed in the language of the heart that Circling requires and develops.
We are certified Circling facilitators - a powerful mindfulness technique combining Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Gestalt, and Imago techniques.
Circling's primary purpose is radical empathy - truly getting each other's worlds. This practice brought us together (see our story below), and we use it daily in our own marriage. This is how we maintain a safe space between us that allows the rigorous honesty for intimacy to grow.
We teach this to help other couples access a deeper, richer, exhilarating connection that goes far beyond what you're probably thinking is possible in your relationship. We had no idea what we were missing until we used these tools to...
Breakthrough: Learn to say the things you're afraid to say that ultimately get more of what you want in your relationship
Be vulnerable: Identify the top ten defenses hurting your relationship and how to stop them now
Get authentic: Hear the magic questions that reveal interesting parts of each other you've never heard before
Be honest: Master the tools that make telling harder truths much easier
Overcome: Get to the core of what's blocking more intimacy and overcome it
Master the tools that make telling harder truths so much easier so your
Here's what couples are saying....
"Alison and Vincenzo are highly skilled at creating a safe space for partners to love deeper and fuller and connect with others."
"You may feel scared to join as I was, but Alison and Vincenzo were very welcoming. It was really transformative."
"Alison and Vincenzo were overflowing with love and passion for each other and gave so much of their experience, compassion, vulnerability, and knowledge on communication and being mindful with my partner."
"Grateful that Alison and Vincenzo facilitated this practice on how to live and stay in the 'bubble!'"
We are Alison and Vincenzo.
7 years ago, we met at a mindfulness Meetup in Manhattan. Both of us in our forties, I was discouraged and hopeless about ever finding the One, and Vincenzo was nursing wounds from an ended marriage. I didn't trust his motorcycle riding player vibes. He thought I was cold and withdrawn.
When we cut through the bullshit small talk and stories we were telling ourselves about each other, and got real, the magic happened: we were able to finally recognize each other as soulmates.
Today, we're committed and honored to help other couples achieve a deeper love beyond their wildest dreams with Circling. We have both become certified mindfulness guides, I'm a couples psychotherapist and Vincenzo is a Gestalt psychoanalyst in training.
Three years ago we got married. And we really walk the walk: we practice what we teach every day in our relationship to keep it clean - free of the toxic defenses that corrode trust and safety in the relationship. We show you how to practice mindful communication that maintains wonder and joy and connection for years to come.
Alison Bulman is a New York state-licensed psychotherapist, motivational speaker, and writer, based in Long Island, New York. She specializes in treating couples and people with substance use issues. She is the creator of IntimaCities - workshops, support groups, and a blog - specifically for people who struggle with intimacy. She is a certified Circling Facilitator through Circling Europe, and trained with Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D., authors of "Getting the Love You Want" and creators of Imago therapy. Alison also trained at Gestalt Associates for Psychotherapy, the Jewish Board of Family and Children's Services, and the Hudson Valley Psychodrama Institute. She learned Transcendental Meditation at New York's David Lynch Foundation and studied mindfulness and meditation at the Dai Bosatsu Zendo in upstate New York.
About Alison Bulman, LCSW
About Vincenzo Minino
With a masters in economics and commerce from his native city of Naples, Italy, Vincenzo came to New York City 20 years ago to pursue his current career as quality compliance director for a multinational company. Resolving conflicts between offices around the globe, he brings a unique understanding of what it takes to get another's world. He's currently in training to become a licensed psychoanalyst at Gestalt Associates for Psychotherapy. He sought out Circling originally to strengthen his connection with his 12-year-old daughter. Circling enriched this relationship and others through his years of weekly practice, retreats, and applying the tools daily in his relationship with Alison. He also trained with Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D., authors of "Getting the Love You Want" and creators of Imago therapy. Vincenzo is committed to teaching his practice for personal and professional conflict resolution. He's especially interested in supporting men to reconcile society's rigid definition of masculinity and vulnerability in his weekly men's group.