Welcome! I'm Alison Bulman, LCSW, a Garden City-based psychotherapist supporting clients through generalized anxiety, depression, and life transitions.
I'm particularly passionate about helping couples avoid the massive communication mistakes that cause misery in relationships.
I'm working on a book about my “Mindful Communication” technique, featured at conferences and therapist trainings around the country.
How I can help YOU
I show couples a safer, more productive talking style that enables the honesty and authenticity that relationship conflict can otherwise corrode.
I help couples reclaim their love and vitality, but also work with newlyweds on what I call “relationship preventive care” - laying the communication foundation for a successful future together.
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Some prefer working with my husband and I as a coaching team.
We are a husband and wife team - Vincenzo Minino and Alison Bulman, LCSW - offering a unique private, online, couple-to-couple coaching experience.
We are certified Circling facilitators - a powerful mindfulness technique combining Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Gestalt, and Imago techniques.
Circling's primary purpose is radical empathy - truly getting each other's worlds. This practice brought us together (see our story below), and we use it daily in our own marriage. This is how we maintain a safe space between us that allows the rigorous honesty for intimacy to grow.
We teach this to help other couples access a deeper, richer, exhilarating connection that goes far beyond what you're probably thinking is possible in your relationship. We had no idea what we were missing until we used these tools to...
Results you can expect
Get on the same page about what’s acceptable and what’s not in how you talk to each other to prevent defensiveness and escalating
Improving not just your romantic relationship but you also can use these communication tools with your kids, coworkers, boss, family and friends
You have it forever
Avoid divorce and avoid spending thousands of dollars
Protect your kids’ mental health by fighting less
Have better sex
Rekindling romance and love
Protect your vacation, event or weekend from the turmoil of arguing and tension.
Don’t waste money on bad couples counseling
Become a better sister, employee father makes you a better person
Who are we?
About Alison Bulman, LCSW
Alison Bulman is a New York state-licensed psychotherapist, motivational speaker, and writer, based in Long Island, New York. She specializes in treating couples and people with substance use issues. She is the creator of IntimaCities - workshops, support groups, and a blog - specifically for people who struggle with intimacy. She is a certified Circling Facilitator through Circling Europe, and trained with Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D., authors of "Getting the Love You Want" and creators of Imago therapy. Alison also trained at Gestalt Associates for Psychotherapy, the Jewish Board of Family and Children's Services, and the Hudson Valley Psychodrama Institute. She learned Transcendental Meditation at New York's David Lynch Foundation and studied mindfulness and meditation at the Dai Bosatsu Zendo in upstate New York.
About Vincenzo Minino
With a masters in economics and commerce from his native city of Naples, Italy, Vincenzo came to New York City 20 years ago to pursue his current career as quality compliance director for a multinational company. Resolving conflicts between offices around the globe, he brings a unique understanding of what it takes to get another's world. He's currently in training to become a licensed psychoanalyst at Gestalt Associates for Psychotherapy. He sought out Circling originally to strengthen his connection with his 12-year-old daughter. Circling enriched this relationship and others through his years of weekly practice, retreats, and applying the tools daily in his relationship with Alison. He also trained with Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D., authors of "Getting the Love You Want" and creators of Imago therapy. Vincenzo is committed to teaching his practice for personal and professional conflict resolution. He's especially interested in supporting men to reconcile society's rigid definition of masculinity and vulnerability in his weekly men's group.
We are Alison and Vincenzo.
7 years ago, we met at a mindfulness Meetup in Manhattan. Both of us in our forties, I was discouraged and hopeless about ever finding the One, and Vincenzo was nursing wounds from an ended marriage. I didn't trust his motorcycle riding player vibes. He thought I was cold and withdrawn.
When we cut through the small talk and stories we were telling ourselves about each other, and got real, the magic happened: we were able to finally recognize each other as soulmates.
Today, we're committed and honored to help other couples achieve a deeper love beyond their wildest dreams with Circling. We have both become certified mindfulness guides, I'm a couples psychotherapist and Vincenzo is a Gestalt psychoanalyst in training.
Three years ago we got married. And we really walk the walk: we practice what we teach every day in our relationship to keep it clean - free of the toxic defenses that corrode trust and safety in the relationship. We show you how to practice mindful communication that maintains wonder and joy and connection for years to come.
You can also find great tips for Mindful Communication in my article in the Cornellians Alumni Magazine
Who we work with
We work with those looking for a prescription for a successful marriage. There is no right or wrong time to start working towards a great marriage.
That might mean you could be:
A couple in a long-term commitment
A couple on the verge of marriage or engagement
Why choose to work with us?
"Alison and Vincenzo are highly skilled at creating a safe space for partners to love deeper and fuller and connect with others."
"You may feel scared to join as I was, but Alison and Vincenzo were very welcoming. It was really transformative."
"Alison and Vincenzo were overflowing with love and passion for each other and gave so much of their experience, compassion, vulnerability, and knowledge on communication and being mindful with my partner."
"Grateful that Alison and Vincenzo facilitated this practice on how to live and stay in the 'bubble!'"